Hi, I’m Scott!
Thanks so much for dropping by my little home on the web. It’s great to have you here!
But before we talk about me (I’d much rather talk about you!) I have a couple questions that I think you could answer….
Have you ever gone through a painful breakup, separation, or divorce?
And when you “got through” that confusing chapter of life,
did you have more questions than answers about how to date again?
And (take a deep breath!) once you found someone you were interested in,
were you deeply motivated to find real ways to make that love last?
Well, if you answered yes to any of those questions- you’re in the right place! I’ve been there BIG TIME, and lived to not only tell about it- I teach about it. Through the years, I’ve figured out what works and what doesn’t.
Again, I’m glad you’re here and I look forward to sharing my findings with you!
How I Help
Years ago, after an exhausting (that has yet to end) journey, I started transcribing all of my journals, notes, and ideas-on-the-back-of-napkins into focused teachings. Before I knew it, The Circle of Love Coaching Program had been born.
If you’re single and searching for real love that can last
If you’re in a relationship and want to help it realize its full potential
or if you’re going through a painful breakup, separation, or divorce
As the creator of the Circle of Love Coaching Program, I specialize in singles coaching, pre-marital coaching, and marriage mentoring. It’s within these programs- using my training as a Certified Marriage Mentor– that I coach people how to have amazing marriages.
Additionally, building on my love for healthy marriages, I’m also a dynamic wedding officiant.
And, in a volunteer capacity, I lead the Relationship Ministry at one of the largest churches in the United States.
My Journey- My Story (Grab a cup of coffee and pull up a chair)
Looking back over my life, I think I was always a little confused about love. From questionable relationships during high-school, college, and my early twenties, it was probably obvious to outside observers that I was clueless.
When it came to love, I was like a dog chasing a car- I didn’t know what to do with it even when I caught it!
In my mid-twenties, I met a nice girl and it all seemed to be “different”. We got along great and had fun together. It was one of those examples of a relationship that just kept plugging along. And, after enough time (or so we thought) we figured the next logical step was to get married.
I mean, why not? We got along, had fun together, and seemed to have the basic building materials for a solid marriage.
And so with that, we walked down the aisle and made great promises to each other.
Things were great in the beginning as we settled into our roles and of husband and wife. But there were many things that had never been discussed, let alone agreed upon. We soon came face to face with our inability to communicate at a deeper level, and it was putting a tremendous strain on our young marriage. We were divorced less than a month before our one year anniversary.
And that really sucked. It sucked the life, motivation, and direction right out of me.
Here I was, 29 years young, and fresh out of a divorce.
I didn’t know what to say, or who to say it to. I felt lost without a map.
And so I did the only thing I really knew to do. Avoid, deny, and medicate the pain. I went out drinking with my friends on the weekends, chased women (I even caught some of the slow ones — just kidding!), and spent a bunch of money I didn’t really have.
Sound familiar? It should, because this is how a lot of people “get over” a significant loss like divorce.
And so I kept on keeping on. I worked, I slept, I played. But deep inside my heart had a limp. It never fully recovered. Everything I was doing was merely a band-aid, where I really needed surgery and rest.
And then, everything seemed to change with one phone call.
I spoke to my dad over the phone and he mentioned that a past girlfriend had called and left a message.
My mind raced with intrigue and anticipation. What did she want, why was she reaching out, and most importantly was she single and available. You see, she and I had a lot of unfinished business and I had always wanted to see if we could make it work.
*** Alright everybody, that’s all I have for now. I’ll be back soon to write this out. Take care and we’ll catch up soon! ****
This real-world experience combined with being a Certified Biblical Counselor gives me a unique perspective on healthy marriage. When all is said and done, I take this diverse life experience and training, and utilize it to equip and strengthen couples, and therefore achieve the healthy, growing, and lasting love they’ve always wanted.
Again, helping people achieve the amazing relationships they’ve always wanted is my passion- plain and simple.
It’s interesting, but I can remember back as early as high school when people would look to me for encouragement, motivation, and sometimes just straight advice.
I was often told that I’m approachable, just plain easy to talk with, and that people felt an instant comfort and trust when sharing their trials or situations with me.
As the years passed, I embarked on a voracious study of what is commonly referred to as Applied Human Psychology. In a nutshell, it’s the fascinating, real-world study of what makes one person go much farther than another: the habits, thoughts, feelings, and actions that one person engages in whereas another person neglects.
So it’s no surprise that my life’s mission has evolved into that of Relationship Expert and Life Coach.
Pure and simple, my passion is helping people get from where they are to where they want to be.
About My Faith
I am a Christian and I am very spiritual.
To me, everything has a greater and deeper meaning. The life I enjoy today is the direct result of God’s own intervention on my life and the curriculum He ushered me through.
I want you to know that regardless of your religious affiliation, or lack thereof, you’ll always be met with love, encouragement, motivation, and compassion. With your permission, I may introduce various scriptures and principles that I believe would be highly comforting and beneficial to your particular situation.
Please trust me in this, you’ll always be met with unconditional love and acceptance.