Breakin’ The Chains

Just the other day, I was on one of my regular motorcycle rides through the backcountry of San Diego.  There’s a lot of great roads out there, and as you might imagine, most of them are near mountainous areas.

While these roads are all fun and games during the summer, they can be quite treacherous during the winter.  As such, it is required that you have “chains” on your tires to ensure your safety on the mountain.

They have signs indicating when to put them on and when to take them off; and officials are serious to the point of not letting you up the mountain if you don’t have chains- they’ll actually have you turn around and go back.

And rightly so- in cases like this, the chains protect us from inherent danger.

In my work as a Relationship Expert and Life Coach, I’ve noticed plenty of people wearing “chains” all the time.  They’ve strapped on self-limiting beliefs, fear-based attitudes, and a host of other self-sabotaging thoughts.

They wear them for all sorts of occasions:  to protect themselves from dating, going back to school, getting in shape, asking for a raise, the unknown, and the uncertain.

Truth is, some things deserved to be respected and even feared.  But when our fears become more pervasive and global, they can quickly prevent us from fulfilling our destiny and enjoying the life God wants for us.

Stretch, Grow, Become!

We all have fears.  It’s part of the human condition.  What separates the participants from the spectators is how we process those fears and move beyond them.


Identify your fears, concerns, anxieties, and put them down on paper.

You see, something happens when we get honest about our “chains” and put them down on paper.  The problem with most folks is they just let these thoughts run wild like an eight-year-old through a china shop.

When we condense our thoughts in a journal, we can see them for what they are: normal fears that human beings have been overcoming for centuries.  We can see them from a higher altitude and a different angle.  We have some perspective.

Team up!

Enlist the power of a loving God who wants you to succeed.  Go to God in prayer and meditation and ask Him to supernaturally empower you to plow through this fear.

Truth is, if you could’ve done it by yourself, you would have surely done it long ago.  In any warriors journey, there are obstacles, pits, and traps.  The good news is you’re never alone.

The Bible has some wisdom here, saying: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous hand”  Isaiah 41:10

Pick A Fear And Mount An Attack!

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said “do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain”.  It’s true- when we take the actions and punch fear in the face, we often look back and laugh, wondering why we were so scared in the first place.

Conquering fears breeds confidence and you’ll quickly attack new fears with gusto!

Break The Chains!

Follow these suggestions when you find yourself “chained” to the old patterns that keep you stuck.  Step by step, you will become a fear-smashing machine and walk right into the life you were born to live.

Change isn’t easy.  If it was, everyone would be living the dream.  Having a coach who takes people from where they are to where they want to be makes all the difference.  Call me today to learn more.

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